Take out your marital log, a tape recorder, and the records you have kept on your opportunities in Chapters One and Two. Record you reactions to the points made in this chapter. Record your “bonding imprint” and courtship sequence in discussion with your partner. Collect some old pictures of your courtship days, not just with your spouse but with anyone. Discuss your courtship of others with your spouse, the good and bad times.
Sheila was treated in my clinic for loneliness and depression. She felt that she would never love or be loved again. During her therapy, she reported another trip to another bar. By her report, this particular bar was one of the darkest she had ever been in. It seems that most bars are quite dark, perhaps another way of promoting deception in the courtship ritual?
“I went this time just to hear the band. I got a soft drink and sat far enough from the speakers to hear quality instead of volume. Well, I really got into the music. This man came and sat beside me. We didn’t talk, but I could tell he was really into the music, too. We listened to the whole set, about forty minutes, I’d say.” Sheila continued to describe a meeting that would begin an entirely new relationship.
“I spoke first,” Sheila continued. “Not really to him, just sharing how I felt. I didn’t even look at him. I told him that the last song made me want to cry because it reminded me of my ex-husband. He answered, “Me, too. And by the way, you look familiar.”
“Well, I know you won’t believe this, but I was familiar. It was my ex-husband,” continued Shelia. “He had seen me sitting here and come over to talk. He didn’t want to bother me when I was so engrossed in the music and was kind of embarrassed about the whole scene. We laughed, but I think we were crying. You know what? I’m going out with him this Friday night. I hope we do it right this time.”
*61\97\8*
Random Posts
If you're new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!
Leave a Reply
You must be logged in to post a comment.